Virtually every relationship will at some point have a disagreement. The thing that makes a disagreeable MOMENT become a PERIOD of disagreement is the Grandfather clause. This is when you incorporate the last disagreement (or disagreements) you’ve had with your current one. It’s when you remember how irate you felt the last time, how you held your peace when you really wanted to say something the last time, or how you never really got over what they did or said the LAST TIME. Your current disagreement may really NOT be that bad and could be solved easily if only you could get over how much you don’t like this person based on … you guessed it … the last time. The Grandfather clause in disagreements will always keep you at odds. Instead, deal with each issue separately and realistically. Be honest with yourself about whether you are really working to get past it or if you’re just pouting. Relationships are for adults and disagreements must be handled as such. Don’t selectively become a child just because you can’t MAKE a person do what you want them to do.
1 Corinthians 13:11 – When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.